Thursday, December 22, 2016

Friday, November 4, 2016

This House


He would always run.
His flat feet carried him far from home,
toward a distant serenade,
where his laughter
lit up hearts in blue,
like a summer sky.

Now I kiss the clouded sky;
his life in this dimension ran
its course like a plush blue
flame that licked our layered home
with anger and laughter—
a dysfunctional family serenade.

I serenade
the shadowed night sky,
remembering his laughter,
choosing not to run
from his home
filled with memories coated in blue.

The days, painted pale blue,
like a soft serenade,
with lyrics that say “come home,”
filling the bare sky
in gray clouds that run
with raindrops. I miss his laughter.

My loud laugh,
a sparkled blue
cacophony, has returned. It runs
like a Calypso serenade
to life filled sky.
His memories reside in our home.

They say home
is the heart, but I prefer laughter
that reaches the sky,
that stretches into sparkly blue.
A joyful serenade
With ebb and flow, like a river running.

This house, a kaleidoscope of red, gold, and blue,
the colors of lemon laughter, a silky serenade of love,
a silver sky running with hope.

Thursday, October 27, 2016

My Brother's Cats

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My brother’s smarty cats
go on walks,
following me in a non straight line,
stopping to smell the dazzling scents,
or climbing
up a succulent tree.

The sister willow trees
we find on our walk,
with twisted lines,
house muskrats that climb
beneath gray roots that scent
the waters of Herrmann pond as surely as a cat.

My brother used to climb
to the top of apple trees,
reaching for branches lined
with fruit.  Bitch, his black cat,
nose in the air, walked,
looking for him by scent.

I planted an Alpine tree.
It grows tall in a layered line,
extending its scented
llmbs like a long walk
with the grace of a cat.
For now, it’s too short to climb.

His dainty cats
beneath the alpine tree
can walk,
their tails, a question mark, a fine line.
I’ll remember my brother as the years climb
to stretches unmarked by his scent.

Today, a gray line
of rain prevents us from taking our walk.
My brother’s furry cats,
their noses twitching with the scent
of dead trees
burning in the fire, dream of climbing.

The Alpine will grow to a tall and sinuous tree
Marking time in an infinite line,
even after the cats and I take our last walk.

Sunday, September 11, 2016

Season of Goodbyes


The seasons, like life, shift from spring, to summer, to fall, to winter, marking the passage of time with tulips, green grass, dips in the lake, a blanket of leaves shaded in crimson, soon to be covered with the first snow, clean as angel wings. The cycle repeats, ad infinitum, but my body, bones crinkling and skin wrinkling, sits on the deck in my oak rocking chair, observing the passage of glory fading, too many friends succumbing to illness, and an aunt diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Death, I think, is just another season. And we fear it because we don’t understand it. We miss our loved ones that have crossed over, that have peered into death’s eyes and begun their new season. I miss our conversations, hugs, and laughter. I think that if I could collect my tears in a bucket, they would water my garden, and the lettuce would taste like salt. My mom says that my tears honor the dead, that they drink them from a golden cup, and realize how well they were loved.

My tears cascade down cheeks splotched with red. I look in the mirror and wonder who is staring at me. She smiles with my smile, and we laugh, reaching across the glass to embrace. She holds my memories, says she will cherish them and keep them safe. In this way, I rest assured that the goodbyes that push up my horizon, a veritable cliff of goodbyes, will not go unheeded. That my friends in their new season will live in my heart, that fall and winter, the seasons of goodbyes, will once again shift to spring and summer, and I will relish the scent of lavender and dip my toes into the cool waters of our glorious lake once again.

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Psychic Landscape


His psychic landscape, a straight line
dips toward the past,
while mine, curvaceous,
twists and tangles, ad infinitum.

I say, “another mother lost a son.”
A deer, a motorcycle,
drinking and driving;
the mother and father bereft.

He says, “I had a great day at the range,”
and shows me two targets circled in red;
the dots, edged in black
feel like an arrow piercing my heart.

I follow my curves into the past
toward something (the car flipped ejecting him)
I want to forget ad infinitum
and sob into a handkerchief lined in lace.

He talks of paper cartridges and brass bullets
I picture the motorcycle.
A paper cartridge, a bullet
Aimed at the family’s heart.

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Tis Golden

Tis golden
The spaces in between
Glitters and dances
Do you know what I mean?

If you follow that rainbow
Just over the dale
Turn left at the river
That goes on like a trail

Ignore gospel and gossip
Gather wild strawberries
Drop fertile frustrations
They’re too heavy to carry

Don’t stop for regrets
Or worry about old bills
Just keep on trudging
Up the rugged hill

Before you know it
An ocean you will hale
in an elegant boat
with a billowing white sail

the winds blow forever
like cool waters and warm sands
reach for infinity
with grateful hands

and in all your travels
that will surely lead you home
where the dog waits patiently
composing canine poems

the gold of your smile
the blue of your eyeslives on forever,
there are no goodbyes

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Giving Back

My son, Nikolas Jesus Aguirre, died in a car accident caused by drinking and driving. Worst yet, he was the drunk driver; a seatbelt would have saved his life. But he had the malady of youth, the belief that he would live forever, and so, he died a tragic death that has changed my life forever.

Last week, an old friend came to visit. She had witnessed the birth of my son, and although we hadn’t seen each other for more than eight years, our connection was still strong. I explained to her that the missing still continued to burn a hole in my heart, but that I had many outlets for my grief that made life bearable.

When I told her about performing at drug court graduations, she got teary eyed, and told me about a father that had lost his daughter to cancer 20-years-ago. He had the opportunity to participate in the make a wish foundation to help another child struggling with cancer. Financially, he could help support this endeavor, but physically and mentally, he could not.

At the last drug court graduation, a friend of my son’s graduated from the program. He held his baby daughter in his arms, his face lit up like a thousand stars, his life unfolding in a positive direction, with infinite possibilities.

There was a time when I would have been angry, sad, and incapable of witnessing this event, because my son would never hold his child in his arms. I’m grateful that I can give back, and was able to see this other young man’s infant daughter, to give him a hug, and to tell him, I am so proud of you.

I miss you Niko, everyday.

Friday, May 20, 2016

Garden Grace

Every year, Nik’s memorial garden amazes and delights with an explosion of color. The daffodils begin the parade, announcing the return of summer, swiftly followed by the iris blossoms in an amazing array of purples, yellows, pinks, chocolates, light blues, and lavenders.

I’m not by nature a gardener, but am blessed with numerous gardening friends that bring new treats for me to plant. The garden seems to be blessed by angel wings, because everything grows in Nik’s garden (including the weeds).

Digging in the rich soil, pulling weeds, and caring for the memorial garden brings me a sense of balance and peace. In the garden, I feel as if I am surrounded by my son’s love. It’s a place where I can fight the demons of guilt, anger, and the pain of the missing, and embrace the happy memories and focus on light and laughter.

Soon, the berries will bare fruit, the lettuce will be ready for harvesting, and I will enjoy the produce of this special space created in memory of my son. I miss you, Niko, every day.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

RED, by Rhoda Sanford

I read it, long ago
how the trees sing in the wind,
how the tulips dance.
Long ago, I read it.

Today, I watch
red roses bloom,
reflections of the sun,
swaying with the breeze.
I watch today.

Tomorrow I wait
for the birds to flock,
red robins hopping on the grass,
jays scolding from the trees.
I wait for tomorrow.

Monday, May 9, 2016

No Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday. The missing swallows the day. No trace of your smile lines my face. My eyes glitter with tears.

Saturday, April 9, 2016

Nik was very proud of his Christmas cactus, which blooms at Christmas. After he died, it donned three flowers that looked like angel wings. On my 50th birthday (in February), it bloomed again. It continues to dazel and amaze every Christmas, and after my brother died a couple of weeks ago, it sprouted with more than 15 flowers. Nik is letting me know that he is with his Uncle Rex.

My Brother, Rex Mayo


Three days before I set off to set sail on the Liberty Clipper, a vintage tall sailing ship reminiscent of a pirate ship, Rex Mayo, my 54-year-old baby brother, dropped dead from a massive heart attack. We were in a state of shock, as Rex was in good health and had no signs of heart problems. My family insisted I embark upon my vacation, which I had saved up for and planned for a year.

With mixed emotions, I left on my journey, worried about my sister and my mom, and unsure as to whether or not I would be able to enjoy myself. While the ocean soaked up my tears, my family made arrangements for the memorial.

I returned, rested and a bit sunburned, with a fresh perspective on life, and new insights into the grieving process. It felt like I had gone on a walk about (sail about), and that my brother had taken the journey with me. We talked about old times, we swam in the blue waves, and we walked on sandy pink beaches. Rex assured me that he was happy I had gone on my trip, because according to Rex, life is short, and right now is the time to step up to the plate and embrace it.

The family is gathering for the memorial, and our tears continue to fall, because we are left missing the brother, the son, the Uncle, the friend, the cousin, that always had our back. His early departure leaves a gaping hole in our lives, and we are left trying to figure out how to get along without him. And then I see him on the aft of the Liberty Clipper, helping the crew pull up the main sail, and he is smiling, the sunshine a halo above him, the waves dancing in blue, and I know he is free.

My brother didn’t care about material possessions. He cared about people, and kids, and family, and friends. He didn’t hold grudges, he worked hard, and he was always willing to help. And he never asked for anything in return. Today, I will honor my prince of a brother by acting with kindness and compassion, by reaching out to help others, by forgiving early and often, and by remembering to live in the moment, here and now.

Monday, February 1, 2016

Snow Cascades


As Snow cascades like candy
Fog settles across my brow
Covering the grave of a noble dog
Framed by a solstice bough.

Every day you walked me graciously
guarded us from zombie armies
You did your job with a sense of gravity.
And saw my son on his journeys

racing before our eyes
dogs age at a faster pace
I’m glad to have known such a gallant dog
you finished your time with grace

I wept at your side
Surrounded by hearts that love you
We buried you deep within the ground
pawfuls of his ashes above you

May you run in vaster fields
May you chase after your boy
You’ve surely earned your respite now
And in heaven both reside with joy.