It’s been more than five years since you died, and this will
be our sixth Christmas without you. The family and I have made progress on our
grief journey, as we trudge through traditions, songs, and favorite recipes
that remind us of you.
I think you would like the tree I cut down this year. I must
admit, I missed having you here to do the heavy labor, but I did not miss the
bickering over which tree we would select. Remember how I finally had to set
down some guidelines, and we would alternate who got to choose the tree every
year?
I set your special ornaments, the singing Santa, the
nutcrackers, the statue of a black lab in a red hat, the train, and the
snowboarding snowmen, in a special corner. The first Christmas without you, I
could hardly bare to look at them. They still bring tears, but instead of
bitter regrets and anger that you left us too soon, they evoke joyful memories
of laughter and love.
Your sister still makes the chorizo fondue, and your grandma
and I make the pumpkin pies. I grow pumpkins in your memorial garden, because
as you know, real pumpkins make the most delicious pies. When I roll out the
dough, I wear your apron, because it reminds me of you, and I secretly believe
that act makes the pies taste better.
I finally got your dog, Chollo, a baby, Little Girl. She has
brought much love and happiness into our lives. We have to take her on walks at
least two times a day, and that has made Chollo and I much healthier.
We miss you Nik. We miss your sharp wit, your smile, your
wonderful cooking, and your generous heart.
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